“We find a place for what we lose. Although we know that after such a loss the acute stage of mourning will subside, we also know that we shall remain inconsolable and will never find a substitute. No matter what may fill the gap, even if it be filled completely, it nevertheless remains something else“.
— Sigmund Freud (1961)
We grieve many things; the death of a loved one, the end of a relationship, changes, transformations, the realization that what “used to be” no longer is. Each stage serves a purpose; we might experience them more than once, in different orders, simultaneously, or not at all. Acknowledge them, embrace them, then along with that which you grieve, let them go…